“Committing to charter the exploration of one's self can feel daunting but we have one life to live and I believe from my own experience in therapy that, as arduous as it is to confront the self, the rewards are infinite.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
I grew up with my mother as a social worker and my father as a psychologist. The human struggle and psyche were common dinner conversations. Torn between a career choice as a journalist or a therapist, I chose psychotherapy as it allowed me to pursue my other great love: Building my own family and becoming a mother. I am a wonderful listener and I have the compassion and wisdom to understand the unique shape of individuals and personality development. I find attachment to be crucial in understanding one in relationships and conflicts and as such my focus is often rooted in this. I am fascinated by the defenses and their ability to keep the individual together and also gets in one's way. My goal (among many) is to work to develop insight, to internalize this understanding, and then use it to navigate a more intentional life. Using the therapy relationship as a microcosm of other relationships allows for understanding of struggles in relationships and improving communication therein.
What should someone know about working with you?
I am dedicated to taking the time to understand one's history. I find therapy is like a dance and developing a relationship is like learning the steps of a dance. Often, it can take time to develop a common language before "work" can begin. In my experience, however, this foundation allows for deeper, more meaningful, and real change to take place.
What do you do to continue learning and building competencies as a provider?
I am an avid reader and student of all things. While much of my education and supervision is psychodynamic and psychoanalytic in its orientation, I believe being a well-rounded person and engaging in culture, education, film, and art teaches me equally about people and the human condition. I have trained in IFS, mindfulness, couples therapy, and other disciplines but my own experience over 20 years as a clinician in outpatient mental health clinics and private practice has taught and humbled me more than anything. Over the past five years, I have supervised other therapists, which allows me to teach and support and share my views on treatment. Lastly, my role as a mother of three has taught me greatly about the self and the other value of attachment.
How do your own core values shape your approach to therapy?
I believe it is our job as human beings to learn deeply who we are and I believe life is a process. Being human can be hard and painful sometimes. Having the courage to ask for help is an awesome step. Committing to charter the exploration of one's self can feel daunting but we have one life to live and I believe from my own experience in therapy that, as arduous as it is to confront the self, the rewards are infinite. When this experience is met with compassion, empathy, curiosity, and kindness, the path can be a revelation.
“But when this experience is met with compassion, empathy, curiosity, and kindness, the path can be a revelation.”