“We focus on building a relationship — the dyad of therapy is a relationship, one that explicitly serves you.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
My personal and professional life led me to eventually choose therapy over the corporate world. Who I had to be in my family growing up never resonated; I knew something wasn’t right but I didn't know what was wrong. My answer was to push myself to succeed. I became a research analyst and project manager at Credit Suisse and McKinsey & Company where my responsibilities were to recognize patterns, highlight stumbling blocks, and find paths to success. This included mentoring women who were managing their life-work balance. Just as important, I sought a therapist of my own 20 years ago, a neutral person who reflected what I couldn’t see and helped me unlock untapped aspects of myself. I came to understand that I wanted to support women holistically rather than simply with their careers. My work of unlocking their stories and understanding what holds women back both personally and professionally is what now sustains me and is at the core of my therapy practice today.
What should someone know about working with you?
Working with me is like peeling an onion. The elevator speech we tell ourselves about who we are is often akin to the shiny, toughened skin that protects an onion. I will challenge your narrative on purpose, question you with humility and curiosity until we’ll likely both be surprised at the new perspectives we uncover together. Working with me is creating something new. The dyad of therapy is a relationship - one that explicitly serves you - but a relationship, nonetheless. You deserve to know what lenses influence me, including being the child of immigrants, a mother and sole custodian, and disability advocate. Conversation builds a solid foundation so you will feel safe enough to do the work. Working with me is no walk in the park. Like building new muscle takes multiple and regular trips to the gym, personal and emotional change, by definition, is uncomfortable and strenuous. As we uncover your strengths and heal hurtful episodes from your past, you will see that the investment is invaluable.
What do you do to continue learning and building competencies as a provider?
I keep a purposely small practice so that I have time for research and collaboration with expert therapists in my field. I am studying in a postgraduate trauma program with the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy in New York City. Trauma is of interest to me as it is responsible for holding women back as well as pushing us down unsuitable paths and toward burnout. Many symptoms for which clients seek help and medication are misdiagnosed. For example, depression, shame, self-doubt, chronic pain, and eating disorders stem from unresolved trauma. Much like Victor Frankl studied how people made meaning out of their experiences amidst the heinous backdrop of the Holocaust, I study domestic violence survivors to extrapolate from their experiences and apply this to others. It is important for me to set extra time aside for supervision groups and peer problem-solving with expert providers in my field as ways of keeping my perspectives fresh and my knowledge cutting-edge.
What do you think is the biggest barrier today for people seeking care?
Fear, shame, and doubting one’s own worth are the biggest barriers keeping women from seeking therapy. Women often find themselves in transition with family, work, and relationships. Many women are extraordinarily successful at work while also fulfilling many roles on the personal front. We’re used to being in control, meeting deadlines, and making others smile. It can be difficult to own up to perceived weakness and vulnerability when it contradicts the image we have of ourselves, especially professionally. Speaking from personal experience, I promise you there is strength in vulnerability and great reward in unlocking it.
What are two publications that influence your therapy work?
Team of Rivals: The Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln by Doris Kearns Goodwin and Hope Through History Podcast by Jon Meacham. Ask me why!!
“Our work will uncover your true potential, highlight your strengths, and heal hurtful episodes from your past.”