“I encourage my clients to challenge unhelpful beliefs and maintain authenticity throughout our time together.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
I started my career in documentary films but quickly learned that it wasn’t the movies that inspired me; I was moved by the personal stories. The more documentaries I produced, the more I realized that I wanted to do away with cameras and editing and spend my time sitting with people, listening to them share their experiences. I followed my heart and began looking into counseling. Soon, I found my purpose: helping others with a nonjudgmental lens that hears, sees, and validates the human experience.
What should someone know about working with you?
My sessions are semi-structured and tailored to what is useful for the client. You like homework? Great. No? That works, too. I would never use any method that I didn’t fully believe in or that doesn't feel right for the client. People find my style conversational and comfortable, but I push when I need to and when you need me to. I encourage my clients to challenge unhelpful beliefs and maintain authenticity throughout our time together. I believe in building a strong therapeutic relationship that incorporates humor, curiosity, and insight.
What advice would you give to someone who is hesitant to try therapy?
Your hesitation is normal. Therapy is difficult and slow and sometimes painful. That means it makes sense to want to avoid it. But the same is true for so much of life and so much that turns out worthwhile. Seeing a therapist offers the chance to speak to someone who can help you grow in ways you probably didn’t realize. Or maybe you know exactly what you want but have no clue where to begin. A therapist is attuned to you in a way that others can't be because they are listening through a different lens; they have no personal investment in your outcomes and are therefore free to hear you and respond to you in a way that your friends, family, and partners simply cannot.
What are you most excited about within the evolving mental health landscape?
We are on a path toward more collaborative, accessible, and inclusive therapy due to the shift to online counseling. When people have access to help from wherever they are, it widens the therapeutic world. Face-to face counseling doesn't always take into account the accessibility needs of all people; teletherapy provides a much-needed remedy.
Have you done any research-based work that you found particularly exciting? How does it inform your practice today?
My research around affirmative counseling for folx in the sex industry has opened my eyes and made me a better therapist. Affirmative counseling empowers me to be an advocate and an activist to the LGBTQ+, kink, poly, and sex work communities. It gives me the knowledge and skills to provide care that is supportive of clients’ identities, cultures, and lived experiences. As someone who identifies across a number of the communities I’ve named, I personally understand that non-judgmental and informed care can be hard to come by. I believe that in order for it to exist, I need to be part of its creation.
“A therapist is attuned to you in a way that others can't be because they are listening through a different lens.”