“My sessions are conversations not lectures; they are safe spaces for self-exploration and self-discovery, leading to a healthier and more authentic life.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
I was originally an IT professional; I majored in business because that's what my parents wanted. I quickly discovered that neither of these fields were right for me. While I was good at what I did, I was not happy. I discovered that I was unhappy about many activities demanded by social expectation. The longer I stayed in these fields, the more depressed I became. I was always more people-focused and I wanted to do more than be a cog in the wheel of a big cooperation. I read Personality Types by Carl Jung and I realized why I never felt as though I fit into the business world. This was a revelation to me and I wanted to share it with everyone! Although I had only enough money saved for one year of graduate school, I quit my job, moved in with my mother, and got my master’s and doctorate in clinical psychology. It came naturally to me. Now, I live a much more fulfilling, authentic life of helping others become more self-aware and overcome their self-defeating behaviors.
What should someone know about working with you?
Many therapists start with a list of questions about the client's past. While these questions are important and I do get around to asking them, I am first and foremost interested in connecting with the client and allowing them to tell their story. When doing Zoom and teletherapy, I email intake documents so that clients can return them to me before our first session. I know that if I were starting therapy, I would be disappointed if I had to answer a lot of sterile questions about when I took my first steps and how many siblings I have instead of focusing on the catharsis of sharing my reason for being there and feeling as though the therapist can help me. My sessions are conversations not lectures; they are safe spaces for self-exploration and self-discovery, leading to a healthier and more authentic life.
How do your own core values shape your approach to therapy?
My core values include social and racial justice, open-minded and progressive attitudes, living authentically, self-awareness, and helping others. I believe that "the purpose of life is a life of purpose" and I believe that people come before profit. Once I realized this, I knew I had to leave corporate America. If I could not find my place in the world, then I would have to create a place for myself. For whatever reason, people often wind up in a profession, a relationship, or a life situation that does not work for them. When I was in my doctoral program, nearly every student there had come from another field. We were all aiming to live more authentically by helping others. We had all given up what had been holding us back in order to move forward in healthy and productive manners consistent with our own values. This is the gift I would like to share with my clients.
“My core values include social and racial justice, open-minded and progressive attitudes, living authentically, self-awareness, and helping others.”