“My approach to therapy is collaborative, goal-oriented, and eclectic.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
I’ve always had a deep interest in helping people. In my teen years, I became the go-to person when my friends felt their lives or relationships were in disarray. So, after undergrad, I began my career as a “helper,” advising couples and families on how to better organize finances and make vital decisions about reaching their financial goals. I soon realized that what was most appealing to me about my work wasn’t crunching numbers—it was listening to the emotional stories driving my clients’ behaviors and helping them understand the feelings behind the economics. This led me to pursue master’s degrees in educational psychology and school psychology, and eventually to my career as a psychotherapist.
What should someone know about working with you?
My approach to therapy is collaborative, goal-oriented, and eclectic. I incorporate cognitive behavioral, psychodynamic, and solution-focused methodologies into my practice. My work as a Gottman Level 3-trained therapist enables me to help a wide range of culturally and sexually diverse couples re-establish friendships, trust, and commitment; recover from affairs; deal with pre- and post-baby concerns; develop insight and communication skills; rebuild intimacy and passion; and understand perpetual cycles of conflict and disappointment. I am also a school psychologist practicing at a private school in Westchester, where I help children and their families with their social-emotional needs. In this work, I specialize in creating social-emotional learning workshops that teach students to understand and manage anxiety, use mindfulness techniques, communicate positively, and increase executive functioning skills.
How does collaboration with other providers inform your work?
I am a firm believer that it takes a village, so I don’t see treatment solutions beginning and ending with psychotherapy. I think it's imperative to collaborate with a team of wellness professionals and share in the responsibility of working with the client to improve their life and measure overall growth. Therefore my clients are informed about and referred to diverse wellness providers—in psychiatry, nutrition, yoga, or other fields—to become their best selves.
What advice would you give to someone who is hesitant to try therapy?
If you’re hesitant about therapy, you’ve already thought about it—which means you’re one step closer! Now, think of your best friend, loved ones, or children. Would you discourage them from getting the help they might need from therapy? Would you harshly judge them for personal shortcomings or scare them into managing their own unresolved problems? Or would you be kind and encourage them to seek treatment for relief from life’s predictable and unpredictable challenges? lf it’s the latter, apply that same concept to yourself and cultivate a more self-compassionate attitude—because your life is just as vitally important.
What is the Gottman Method and how do you incorporate it into your practice?
I began training in and practicing the Gottman Method with couples because it solves for the all-or-nothing thinking about relationships. It’s a practical approach that utilizes research-based, solution-focused interventions, mindfulness, and cognitive behavioral methodology to help couples break through barriers and preconceived notions. It lays the groundwork for increased intimacy, mutual understanding, and respect. It’s an honest lens through which to discover whether or not relationships can withstand conflict. Not all conflicts have solutions, but the theory helps couples cope with their differences and prevent relationships from expiring. I believe couples love this method as much as I do because it's hard work that drives results—it will not make couples perfect, but it will allow them to accept that it's okay to be perfectly imperfect.
“I am a firm believer that it takes a village, so I don’t see treatment solutions beginning and ending with psychotherapy.”