“I have since discovered tools and developed skills that allow me (and the people I work with) to move forward in resilience and courage.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
I grew up in a conservative evangelical Christian environment. We didn't give much thought to psychology and therapy. Church was our therapy and the pastors and elders were the counselors. In mid-life, I gave up my faith when prophecy failed. I have since discovered tools and developed skills that allow me (and the people I work with) to move forward in resilience and courage. How do you know you're moving forward? I don't have the answers; I only have the questions that keep opening more doors.
What should someone know about working with you?
The people who seem to enjoy working with me the most recognize that they have an unsung song locked inside of them and they realize that the opportunity to sing that song is limited. They want a fair shot at unfolding the fullness of their capacities back into the universe that wrought them. But sometimes we need help getting unstuck. I have tools that can become your tools and move you forward. It's very possible you already have your own undeveloped skills and creative solutions at the ready — you just need someone to witness your unfolding.
How do your own core values shape your approach to therapy?
Other people need you to be what they think they need you to be, but that's not you. This is a huge problem: If you don't get to be you (really you, in all your YOU-ness), that's a fucking tragedy. My journey is about escaping the tragedy of the unlived life. At the same time, there is something that can feel selfish or self-indulgent about focusing on yourself and your priorities. But check it: Notice how you really do want to be a better friend, a better parent, and a more consistent and supportive spouse. Investing in your development, wholeness, resilience, and satisfaction — as it turns out — is the finest thing you could ever hope to offer those you care for.
What are you most excited about within the evolving mental health landscape?
There is a spiritual and mystical component of who we are. Science is just now becoming bold enough to examine how this can contribute to the discovery and creation of being wholly and completely human. William James is the father of this movement and I'm excited that practitioners in psychology are able not to just learn and talk about being human but to operationalize it, live it, model it, and become human with the people we serve.
“The people who seem to enjoy working with me the most recognize that they have an unsung song locked inside of them and they realize that the opportunity to sing that song is limited.”