“Through our work together, you will gain an understanding of your triggers while developing a new awareness that allows you to make changes to whatever’s no longer serving you.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
As a sensitive child, I witnessed pain and dysfunction within my family relationships. I felt in my heart that there had to be a better way for us to exist peacefully with one another. As a therapist, I learned to understand and create meaning in what was underneath the words, the pain, and the suffering causing conflict in interpersonal dynamics.
What should someone know about working with you?
I enter the therapeutic relationship as an authentic, active, and supportive partner so that we can create a safe haven for you. I believe that if we’re given the proper environment, we can self-heal and transform. Quite often, the coping strategies we develop when we are young become maladaptive when we are adults. Through our work together, you will gain an understanding of your triggers while developing a new awareness that allows you to make changes to whatever’s no longer serving you.
What advice would you give to someone who is hesitant to try therapy?
The advice that I would offer is that therapy is about discovering oneself. Developing an intimate, honest, and authentic relationship with yourself is the best investment you will ever make—your future self will thank you. Therapy helps us personally, professionally, and spiritually. When we create a deeper, more meaningful relationship with ourselves, we can better understand and gain more awareness around our actions, thoughts, behaviors.
What are you most excited about within the evolving mental health landscape?
There was a belief in neuroscience that the brain had very localized functions and stopped growing once we entered adulthood. We now know that the brain continues to grow throughout the lifespan—and neuroplasticity refers to the brain’s ability to do that. When you focus your attention on one thing, you specifically activate certain groups of neurons—and when neurons fire together, they wire together. This revolutionizes our understanding of how we can change with experience and heal wounds from the past. By practicing mindfulness, I will teach you how to monitor the flow of your thoughts, feelings, and attitudes. As you monitor them, you’ll also learn to modify them. Research shows that when you develop these skills, powerful transformation can occur.
Have you done any research-based work that you found particularly exciting? How does it inform your practice today?
Attachment theory greatly informs my approach to couples therapy. When we feel secure and connected in our intimate relationships, we are more resilient during life’s challenges. Knowing you can rely on your partner for comfort and support is a human need and a biological imperative. Due to our understanding of neuroscience, we know that attachment styles—like secure, avoidant, anxious, and disorganized—can change over time through new experiences. In couples therapy, we will identify your attachment wounds and triggers while simultaneously working toward creating healthy secure attachment—resulting in high self-esteem, enjoyment of intimate relationships, and the ability to seek out social support and share feelings with others.
“Developing an intimate, honest, and authentic relationship with yourself is the best investment you will ever make—your future self will thank you.”