“I am a nontraditional therapist, even though I use evidence-based therapeutic interventions.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
In many ways, my life led me to becoming a good therapist. There were a lot of issues in my family of origin, which was based in conservative Christianity and prevented me from expressing my sexual identity. Many things in my life and my lived experiences helped me to understand people at a fundamental level. When I moved to New York, I came out as non-binary. I was hired as a sex-positive therapist because of the intersectionality of my lived experience and professional background. I recently opened my own private practice that focuses on sex positivity and trauma. Currently, I am working on getting trained and certified in neurofeedback for trauma. I am a certified MBT (mentalization-based treatment) practitioner. I am also working on a sex-positive certification, which is not specifically for therapists but is currently the only certification available.
What should someone know about working with you?
I am a nontraditional therapist, even though I use evidence-based therapeutic interventions. My style is more dynamic and I tend to be very expressive while being very real and present with my clients in a no BS manner. I often give homework but this is not worksheet style; it is actually derived from the session content and what needs to be worked on in between our sessions together.
What do you do to continue learning and building competencies as a provider?
I engage in a lot of additional training, including MBT since the style is very congruent to how I work as a therapist. I also continue to get training that is relevant to what I specialize in (in the areas of sex positivity and trauma). Since I am licensed in both New York and North Carolina, I complete continuing education requirements necessary for each state. As my company gets up and running, I will hire people who are part of the sex-positive community or specialize in other areas of trauma that I am not currently trained in.
How do your core values shape your approach to therapy?
My life and lived experiences have allowed me to examine the inequality in the world and how that affects us as humans. I started working in trauma because of things I have seen in my family and in the world and what I have experienced. This led me to believe that there is a lot more trauma in the world, which has only recently been getting recognition. I believe not only in looking at the person but also the environments that they grew up in and even what they are living with currently. Since we can’t possibly know everything, I believe it is important not to assume anything while approaching the client and their life with curiosity.
“My style is more dynamic and I tend to be very expressive while being very real and present with my clients in a no BS manner.”