“In my therapeutic space, collaboration and mutual discussion are key; you will never think that you are going through this process alone with an outside observer.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
I originally had a 20-year career in corporate training and development. While the work was interesting, there was something missing in my life and my career felt somewhat robotic and stressful. I quit my last corporate job in 2008 because I just could not do it anymore. I searched within myself to determine next steps and realized that I wanted to help ease the emotional pain of others. As a gay man, I especially wanted to help sexual and gender minorities be able to live a life with confidence and dignity. I enrolled in a counseling program the following year and never looked back. After completing my licensing degree, I completed my second master’s in human sexuality and sex therapy over the course of three years while working at a college counseling center. I left my college job in 2015 and have been in private practice ever since. I continue my work with college students and sexual/gender minorities (ages 13-65) to this day and could not ask for a better life!
What should someone know about working with you?
In my therapeutic space, collaboration and mutual discussion are key; you will never think that you are going through this process alone with an outside observer. Past clients have described the relationship more like a student/mentor relationship. Cognitive homework is occasionally given and usually takes no more than five minutes a day to complete. My favorite clients are sexual and gender minorities (gay, queer, trans folks) and college students, although I also work with cisgender adults who are having sexual difficulties such as low sexual desire, erectile dysfunction, or failure to achieve orgasm. Counselor check-ins about the session process occur at the conclusion of each session, giving you time to voice your thoughts and concerns about what you have experienced. We then align future sessions based on your input in conjunction with my professional findings. No therapy is ever conducted without your express permission; you are the expert of your own life and will be treated as such.
What is sex therapy? How might it differ from other forms of therapy?
Sexuality is an integral part of self-expression that is informed by our inherent views of self, our sexual choices, our gender identification, and our physical selves. In therapy, I might typically address an individual’s or couple’s desire to participate in sexual activity, improve self-image, and/or enrich sexual lives. Some clients may present with a sexuality-related issue, such as questioning of gender identity, sexual orientation, incorporation of kink, or traditional monogamous relationships. Some may present with process difficulties, which may include low sexual desire (low libido), erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation, or failure to achieve orgasm. I promise that you will be treated with the utmost dignity and respect while we collaborate on the best plan for you to live your best life.
“My favorite clients are sexual and gender minorities (gay, queer, trans folks) and college students, although I also work with cisgender adults who are having sexual difficulties such as low sexual desire, erectile dysfunction, or failure to achieve orgasm.”