“Dealing with many of life’s challenges and experiences over the years enables me to have the experience, wisdom, and maturity to gain insight into the emotional pain of others.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
My first career was in the business world; I was employed as the vice president and marketing director of three different jewelry companies for a period of 22 years. During this time, I was faced with the trials and tribulations of raising a child with ADHD. Oppositional and hyperactive, he was quite a challenge to raise. At the time, the doctors did not understand that he had ADHD. Instead, he was misdiagnosed as having a character disorder, which I was told was not curable. Determined to help my son every way I could, I decided to become a therapist to learn how to treat his problem. Eventually, I learned how to use cognitive behavioral therapy techniques to control his anger and aggression, which in turn helped increase his self-esteem. I’ve always been a sensitive and insightful person, offering help to others whenever there was a need. I experienced in-depth therapy myself when I was younger and profited enormously from it. In addition, my brother is a PhD psychologist and I wanted to follow in his footsteps. Dealing with many of life’s challenges and experiences over the years enables me to have the experience, wisdom, and maturity to gain insight into the emotional pain of others. I graduated cum laude from Fordham University in 1995 and achieved my goal of becoming a clinical social worker. Prior to this, I gained clinical experience at the Mental Health Association in White Plains, New York where I completed a practicum in psychology while working with an outpatient population. I then interned at Rye Psychiatric Hospital, working with their inpatient population, and I completed my internship working at Family Service of Westchester. In addition to the above, I hosted my own talk show called “INSIGHTS” on WLNA radio and have been a longstanding member of the New York State Society of Clinical Social Workers and the Lambda National Honor Society in psychology. Since 1995, I have worked with adults, individuals, couples, and families in my own private practice. Each one of these work experiences and affiliations have deeply enhanced my ability to provide better treatment and successful outcomes for my clients. I’m certified as a clinical hypnotherapist by the Wellness Institute and skilled in helping clients uncover repressed memories of trauma that are harmful to their relationship with themselves and others. Clients report total freedom from their trauma once they’ve released the suppressed pain that has caused them to suffer emotionally for so long. Hypnosis can also be used to help clients control negative habits, such as smoking, overeating, nail biting, and hair pulling. Various hypnotic techniques and strategies can be used to successfully treat a myriad of disorders.
What should someone know about working with you?
Prior to becoming a therapist, I was successfully employed in the business world for 22 years. I often acted as a coach to help others achieve a higher level of success in their careers. My insight and intuition helped me evaluate a person’s talents, strengths, and weaknesses. As a result, I was able to motivate them to establish goals and become the best that they could be. I use these same skills with clients in my therapy practice today. My intake process consists of an exploration of my client’s history. The client begins to understand that therapy is an education about all of their past and present experiences and relationships. Often a client discovers that the source of their pain is not always the reason they're seeking therapy. The therapy experience is geared toward providing long-term healing, insight, and understanding. Sometimes clients are asked to do homework. These assignments are created to help them achieve the long and short-term goals they set for themselves. Each assignment is tailored to meet the client’s needs. I enjoy working with people who are seeking positive change in all aspects of their lives.
Have you done any research-based work that you found particularly exciting? How does it inform your practice today?
While studying psychology at Fordham, I read a book called The Good Marriage. It caused me to become curious about how well young adults, aged 22-35, would fare if their parents divorced. I interviewed over 100 people, 50 from divorced backgrounds and 50 from households that remained intact. When the interviews were completed, I compiled a statistical analysis of the results. I learned that young adults who come from broken homes usually had more emotional problems going forward in life than those whose parents never divorced. These people rarely completed college nor did they have long-term success with their relationships or in their careers. I learned that the underlying issues of their parent’s divorce often caused young adults to get stuck with deep seated emotional problems that did not go away without the help of a professional.
“The therapy experience is geared toward providing long-term healing, insight, and understanding.”