“I don’t believe we seek out therapy because we are “flawed” or because we need to be “fixed.””
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
My path to becoming a therapist has been influenced by my own lived experiences as someone who lives at the intersection of different identities. At different times in my life, it was hard for me to find support that affirmed the vulnerable parts of myself. It was healing for me to cultivate my own therapeutic relationships that allowed space for pain and grief, as well as resilience, growth, and change. My goal is to be a supportive part of someone’s journey so they, too, can give voice to their tender parts as well as honor their survival. Since completing my master’s in social work at Columbia University, I have worked at the intersections of incarceration, trauma, LGBTQIA+ identity, and neurodiversity within community-based organizations and private practice.
What should someone know about working with you?
I don’t believe we seek out therapy because we are “flawed” or because we need to be “fixed.” Instead, I view therapy as a way to take care of ourselves as we navigate challenging systems, circumstances, and relationships. Various systems and “isms” often send us confusing messages about our worth, abilities, and existence. For this reason, I practice from a place that holds space for — and celebrates— your multiple and intersecting parts, while centering your needs in a collaborative way. With me, therapy serves as a place where your expertise is honored, and where you can learn about what works for you and why, in order to live more wholly and authentically in all of your human complexity.
What do you do to continue learning and building competencies as a provider?
I will always be learning and growing. A special interest of mine is content and trainings that explore the intersections of trauma, race, disability, gender, and LGBTQIA+ identity. I am a member of several consultation groups alongside other therapists with the following focuses: adoptee identity, gender, neurodiversity, and EMDR. I continue to learn the most about being human from the people and relationships in my life. In fact, I owe much of what I know about humility, accountability, resilience, and vulnerability to those who have been brave enough to share therapeutic space with me.
How might I utilize therapy in my life?
Therapy can be a place where you practice showing up for yourself in new or radical ways, and where authenticity, curiosity, and joy are nourished without judgment. Therapy moves at your own pace and is informed by your own personal goals and interests. Therapy might look like unpacking big or unknown feelings with patience and compassion. It might include coming up with new ways of navigating complex life circumstances or relationships while honoring what has helped you survive thus far. Therapy may also serve as a container to experiment or try new things with encouragement and support. Or, it might be a time in your day to slow your thoughts and drop into your body. Growth is a lifelong, daily practice and you are deserving of opportunities for deep reflection and care throughout your process.
“I view therapy as a way to take care of ourselves as we navigate challenging systems, circumstances, and relationships.”