Kay De Simone, LCSW
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Kay De Simone

Psychotherapy, LCSW

Kay De Simone is a psychotherapist who treats high achieving young adults and adults between the age of 17-50. She specializes in complex trauma, high achiever's stressors, and personal growth and is trained in modalities that are the gold standard for treating trauma, depression, anxiety, and life transitions. Primarily, she uses EMDR, somatic therapy, mindfulness, and CBT.
General Mental Health
Personal Growth
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Oxford Health Plans
UHC Student Resources
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“I provide support in the areas of trauma processing, emotional regulation, assertiveness, and emotional skills development.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
I would say that I have been a therapist my whole life; I recall being very young and providing support to classmates and neighbors. I have a deep interest in people's stories and their lives, a burning curiosity of how people's lives worked out the way they did, and a wonderment about what could have helped things turn out differently. I originally pursued careers in business and law. My jobs morphed into initiatives to provide clients/employees with social emotional support. The most challenging clients or partners were assigned to me and we did great together. I was able to see the person, the struggle, and the issue from a place of acceptance and efficiency, which helped develop alliances. I've trained extensively in order to successfully treat the debilitating symptoms/stories that could be burdening you. I'm trained in EMDR, DBT life skills, CBT, TF-CBT, MBSR, and loss treatment. I have considerable experience in the treatment of anxiety, depression, and emotional dysregulation.
What should someone know about working with you?
I support high potential/achieving students and professionals (between the ages of 17-50) in managing their current challenges and processing past experiences. I provide support in the areas of trauma processing, emotional regulation, assertiveness, and emotional skills development. I help my clients pursue their goals, get more centered, and create long-term joy. Most of my clients attend competitive college programs or work in high pressure jobs in the fields of medicine, tech, corporate, or law. You might be feeling overwhelmed in your job/school/home, have too many responsibilities, and/or feeling heartbroken about the distance between you and others. Staying hopeful and productive while managing unprecedented times is a heavy burden to carry alone. I am here to help. My clients are invested in changing the way things are and carving out space to do light assigned homework (e.g., listening to relevant podcasts, watching videos, completing worksheets, or practicing skills between sessions).
What do you do to continue learning and building competencies as a provider?
My treatment model looks to address and heal trauma rather than learn to live with it. I strive to address present stressors and create a new blueprint of how you navigate the world and your relationships so that challenges don’t repeat day after day. I regularly attend eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) training and somatic experience treatment training in order to efficiently help my clients address the historical burdens they carry. I actively continue to develop my knowledge and skills related to complex trauma treatment, immigrational trauma, and therapeutic innovations that are a good fit to help address the changing needs of high achieving/high potential clients. As a sought after paid speaker in the field of complex trauma, immigrational trauma, and high achiever mental wellness needs, I'm able to connect with accomplished peers and presenters and keep abreast of new tools and resources in the community.
How do your own core values shape your approach to therapy?
My core values are growth, balance, and authenticity. I believe that none of us wake up in the morning looking to disappoint ourselves or others. Many of the struggles and challenges we face are fed by our personal history, trauma, or lack of resources. The good news is that there is something we can do about it. Remember learning to ride a bike? Memorizing the multiplication table? Taking the subway the first time? These tasks seemed impossible but after a focused effort, you were able to master them. Life skills development follows a similar pattern. Emotional muscles need training and strengthening, just as your physical and intellectual muscles do. Traumatic events and losses require processing and healing. Therapy with me will provide you with the space to take a deep look at the way things are/feel now and equip you with new tools to create the changes you've been wanting to make, ultimately healing the parts of yourself that no longer serve you.
What are you most excited about within the evolving mental health landscape?
I'm most excited about the shift in societal perception about what therapy is and what a therapist does. There is more and more acceptance around the concept that we are clinically trained adults who are here so you don't have to face things alone. We remain present, invested, and have zero expectations of what your goals and dreams should be. We are your sounding board, your supporter, and ally. I also love the change around what is deemed worthy of therapy. People are becoming more and more comfortable with the understanding that catastrophic events are worthy of visiting a therapist but they’re also seeing that stressors related to work, school, relationships, the COVID-19 pandemic, infertility, big decisions, and life transitions are also great reasons to see a therapist. Growth needs are fantastic reasons to see a therapist, too. Together, we can build your best life, one hour at a time.
“I help my clients pursue their goals, get more centered, and create long-term joy.”
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