“Instead of typical corrective and shame-based behavioral tools, as a trauma-informed therapist, I have learned to focus on empowerment, safety, trust, and choice when healing the relationship with oneself and the relationships with others.”
What was your path to becoming a Licensed Clinical Social Worker?
My therapy practice began after many years of working with individuals and families as a licensed clinical social worker and interfacing with a plethora of mental health agencies in New York City. Throughout my work, I found that large, traditional mental health companies were not treating people through a trauma-informed lens and didn’t emphasize the long-term effects of trauma on the brain, the body, and relational experiences. My approach to people has always been to assume that, more often than not, an individual is carrying a trauma history, the symptoms of which are playing an impactful role on their life and relationships. Instead of typical corrective and shame-based behavioral tools, as a trauma-informed therapist, I have learned to focus on empowerment, safety, trust, and choice when healing the relationship with oneself and the relationships with others. Additionally, I’ve always been fascinated by the relationship and dating phenomena of the modern age. How do fun, grounded, smart, and well-connected individuals end up struggling to find healthy, secure relationships in which their needs are met, they feel prioritized and valued, and their feelings are reciprocated? My mission is to help people recover from unfulfilling interpersonal and romantic patterns and transform the health of their relationships.
What should someone know about working with you?
I am a trauma-informed relationship therapist who specializes in dating anxiety and stagnation, trauma-informed couples therapy, and adult recovery from childhood attachment wounds. Because of the nature of my work, I spend a lot of time listening, caring, and gathering information. Often, therapists dive right into giving advice or suggestions without all the pieces in place. Instead, I believe therapy is a space for deep relational healing. So, there is a steady progression toward truly feeling safe, heard, secure, and confident. This happens through self-care planning, grounding techniques, and suggested resources while simultaneously unpacking feelings and making new, healthy associations for healing to take place.
How do your own core values shape your approach to care?
My core values have been influenced by my upbringing, life experience, gender, and family life. My core values are as follows: You make sense; there is nothing wrong with you and it’s all about what happened to you. When you better understand unresolved trauma, how it has impacted your neurobiology, and how to take ownership of it, you can be more empowered to live life on your own terms. I encourage you to embody your healing. Heal your relationships from the inside out by learning to regulate your emotions and creating a greater sense of inner peace, ensuring that the cycle ends with you. I want you to heal in a safe space and experience relief and reprieve from societal expectations and pressures, family stressors, and personal challenges. I believe you should take compassionate ownership of how you show up in relationships. Begin the work toward self-love and compassion in order to accept the role you play in your life and love life.
“I am a trauma-informed relationship therapist who specializes in dating anxiety and stagnation, trauma-informed couples therapy, and adult recovery from childhood attachment wounds.”