“Therapy has been invaluable in helping me overcome the obstacles to happiness and fulfillment that developed earlier in my life.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
My path to becoming a therapist began as a client. Therapy provided a place and a space that was designed just for me and what I needed, which was allowed to change with time (imagine that!). Therapy has been invaluable in helping me overcome the obstacles to happiness and fulfillment that developed earlier in my life. My own experience of positive change made me want to help provide that experience to others; I did not have to remain stuck and neither do you!
What should someone know about working with you?
My goal is to provide an open, safe atmosphere — in the room or on Zoom — where a client feels comfortable talking about what they need and want. I believe psychotherapy is, among other things, a creative act. Things can shift in a moment and I shift with them. I respect that we are all unique and dedicate myself to knowing each client a little better each week and understanding their preferences and their pace. I believe in the therapeutic relationship as an evolving environment, like a rich soil, where growth and change can happen. Yes, I believe true change is possible. I believe in exploring the past by being fully present, respecting where people are in their lives, and moving together toward goals at a safe speed. Therapy can be hard work, but that doesn't mean we can't share a sense of humor when it shows up; laughing is just as important to healing and growth as crying.
What do you do to continue learning and building competencies as a provider?
I love being a student. I take courses and seminars regularly in the various specialized areas of my profession (e.g., PTSD, DBT, expressive therapies) to advance my knowledge and skills and remain up-to-date. I'm based in New York, which has unending opportunities for continued learning and personal and professional development.
How do your core values shape your approach to therapy?
I grew up in an environment where individuality and self-reflection were not highly valued. Their absence made me desire and value these things intensely. The idea of sharing myself and being accepted felt possible but somewhere off in the distance; I was like a hungry person hearing about a feast. I'm not sure it's possible for us to be completely and consistently understood by another, but I do know it's possible to be and feel heard and I understand the value of that experience. In and of itself, feeling heard can be transformative. That is my purpose as a therapist: To hear and accept someone as they are. Only then is change possible.
Are you the right therapist for me?
It's possible. I work successfully with many different kinds of people of different ages, races, sexual orientations, professions, and passions. But not every therapist is the right therapist for every client. Like any relationship, it takes a little time to find out if you're a match.
“My own experience of positive change made me want to help provide that experience to others; I did not have to remain stuck and neither do you!”