“My work is aimed at leading your relationship(s) to a place of mutual respect, health, and (if romantic) fierce intimacy.”
What was your path to becoming a therapist?
I was born and raised in Uruguay and moved to the US after turning 19. This was a dream that began at the age of six after my father traveled here and brought back a new and cool language as well as fascinating stories about life in the US as an immigrant. I hopped into studying psychology seamlessly, interrupted by my first marriage and the birth of my daughter. In my late 20s, after a failed marriage and with a strong will to become a professional, I went back to graduate school. Training took me from psych wards to substance abuse work. However, I became laser focused on couples therapy about ten years ago after a personal relationship crisis brought me to my knees but ultimately made me a better therapist and human being. I obtained multiple certifications, read over 100 books, trained under renown masters, and met Terry Real. He inspired me and taught me the model I follow: Relational life therapy. My work is skillfully shaped to be effective, interactive, relational, and gently direct.
What should someone know about working with you?
My work is aimed at leading your relationship(s) to a place of mutual respect, health, and (if romantic) fierce intimacy. The first order of business is to clearly help you distill what you want to get out of our work together. Then, I spend a couple of sessions gathering relevant information and identifying what's in the way of what you are seeking. I teach skills as we work together, help you access the part of you that won't use the skills, and we go to work on the wise part of you, allowing it to lead the way. I don't give homework but do ask that you practice what you learn and report back on how it went. I use humor at times and personal experiences if I deem them helpful and I don't ever ask any of my clients to do anything I wouldn't have the courage to do myself. Since I am bicultural and bilingual, I can do all this in two languages and I also have understanding and knowledge of the many nuances that are brought to the table by multiple cultural life experiences.
What are you most excited about within the evolving mental health landscape?
What lights me up the most is the possibility to teach people to consistently live in mutual full respect and relational integrity. I’m hopeful that people are hearing that seeking mental health and behavioral help is not a sign of weakness or shame but a courageous and necessary move to live in a safer, more harmonious, and healthier world. I believe we can co-create a really amazing global place to live, relate, work, learn, and play. I believe deeply and passionately that, if we don't practice ourselves and teach individuals to treat one another and the environment with the utmost care and respect, we are contributing to peril. My biggest purpose is to leave this world a better place for the generations who follow and to inspire them to make the same commitment so they continue to pay it forward.
“I use humor at times and personal experiences if I deem them helpful and I don't ever ask any of my clients to do anything I wouldn't have the courage to do myself.”